With all of the recent drama in the natural hair community and some folks even saying telling the natural hair community to kiss them where they sun don't shine... I wanted to post about acceptance. Not just hair acceptance but, accepting people for who they are, completely.
This is going to be from woman to woman. You *points to your eyes* and Me *points back at my eyes*
Let me get a little personal: I have a friend who when I first met her, I looked up to her. I thought she was everything I wanted to be as a mother and wife. I thought she was just awesome. Problem? She didn't like me for me and I found myself trying to change me to be like her. She would critique everything I did. How I spoke, how I dressed, everything. Being around her was hell to say the least and stressful.
I spent years trying to be her her and would hate everything about me because it wasn't like her. Sounds so sad now when I write it out. I was miserable. I wasn't myself. I was not ME.
After reading a book about Acceptance from the Peaceful Solution Character Education Program, I decided to be ME. If anyone was going to be my friend you had to accept me for who I am. My personality was not changing for anyone and I let folks know their commentary and approval was not needed.
We have to stop looking for acceptance from others. People will always have an opinion about what you're doing , look like, etc. Don't let them make you feel bad about yourself. Whether you relax your hair, wear weaves, wear wigs, rock an afro, whatever. That's your choice. No one has to co-sign your journey through life. (Let me trademark this, lol.)
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